Are there alternatives to win-lose negotiation?

Negotiation. Someone wins. Someone else loses. One person gets what they want. The other person doesn’t. How often do we “win,” only to discover that it’s a hollow victory? What we said we wanted feels different from the “winning” outcome. How often do we “win,” only to discover that the relationship with the other person is irreparably damaged? How often do …

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An alternative to “safe space”

“This is a safe space.” We hear that a lot in coaching, counseling, consulting, and even in business meetings. Groups on Facebook and on LinkedIn are touted as “safe space” where we can feel comfortable in the company of like-minded people: no one will push our buttons. Educational institutions are under pressure to create “safe space” where students and teachers …

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How NOT to pick a mediator

You’ve faced an unhappy fact: your team needs help. The conflict you face isn’t resolving itself, and each attempt at discussion just escalates the issue. The situation is getting increasingly tense, with finger-pointing accusations and name-calling becoming more and more frequent. The only thing you seem to agree on is that something  needs to be done. Perhaps it’s time to hire a mediator. But how …

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