The mid-January droop…

I saw a post on Facebook over the weekend claiming that this week in mid-January is the worst week for depression out of the year – specifically, the third Monday of the month. I don’t know how true this is – Wikipedia calls it “pseudoscience,” and it probably is. But I understand why it might be true. The holidays are over. …

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Ever considered thinking … smaller?

Everyone implores you to THINK BIG. Go big or go home. Be audacious. Don’t settle. Be all you can be (if not more). Set BHAGs (big, hairy, audacious goals). Shoot for the moon – or is it the stars? It’s exhausting. And often demoralizing. Because let’s face it, when we set those BHAGs, we’re likely to miss the mark at …

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What HAVE you done?

No, seriously. What have you done? Usually at the end of the year, we look at what we want to do in the next year. Go ahead. Feel free. But first, consider what you’ve done THIS year. I’ll guarantee it’s more than you think. Because we’re all very quick to put completed projects and successful endeavors behind us and hurry on …

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Go ahead. Take a break.

Yesterday, I presented a breakout session at the annual Businesswomen’s Conference, created every year by the Bentonville Arkansas Chamber of Commerce. This was its 21st year, and they do a fantastic job; it always sells out well in advance, and each year seems to get better (with the possible exception of the plain green salad they consider an adequate lunch …

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Do you have Tall Poppy syndrome?

Tall Poppy syndrome is the desire to mow down those you feel are above you or head of you – those who seem more successful, wealthier, drive better cars, have nicer offices, and so forth. It comes with a desire to not be a Tall Poppy yourself. But there’s a big difference between arrogance and well-earned pride. And if you find …

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Don’t do it!

Do you make New Year’s resolutions? May I suggest that you don’t? The last New Year’s resolution I ever made – and the only one I ever actually kept – was to … (wait for it) … never make another New Year’s resolution. The start of a year seems like a great time to reset and step forward into a …

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Is it THAT time of year again?

No, I don’t mean the holidays (though those are approaching all too rapidly). I mean … performance reviews. And the even-more-dreaded potential for layoffs. Because whatever we may think about companies that do this, it’s common practice that when RIFs (Reductions In Force) are necessary, they often happen just before the end of the year. (It’s a financial accounting thing. …

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Feeling uncomfortable? Good!

Over the last few days, I’ve had an extended conversation with one of my clients about what it takes to learn and grow. We started talking about one of his employees, moved into a more general discussion, and then came back to his employee … and him. The essence of the conversation centered around this reality: if you’re feeling uncomfortable, …

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Afraid of being judged?

Fear of being judged shows up in many ways. We don’t say what we really feel. We don’t wear what we want to wear. We don’t plant our garden – metaphorically or literally – the way we want to plant it. We don’t eat what we want to eat. We don’t ask for what we really want. We don’t read …

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Muting the rotten tomato (a.k.a. your inner critics)

I’ve got good news and bad news. The bad news is that your inner critics will never go away completely. The good news is – well, actually, there are two pieces of good news. (Yay!) Good news #1 You can dial down the inner critics’ noise significantly. With time, patience, and practice, the inner critics’ voices will sound more and more …

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