The stress of Not Knowing

People are starting to really feel the effects of extended upheaval and stress … and not knowing. It’s hard. All of it is hard. Not knowing what’s going to happen, not knowing who will get sick, not knowing who’s already sick and about to infect you. Not knowing if you’ll have a job (if you currently have one), or find a job …

gljudson Management & Leadership, Self-talk

Managing the emotional labor of leadership

There’s a reason you end the day tired, worn out, and even exhausted. Management and leadership are hard work. The mental and emotional work of keeping track of your team’s progress, understanding what’s going on for each team member individually, being aware of what they need from you in the moment, interpreting your boss’s priorities (and moods!) … It’s a …

gljudson Self-talk

What do you need permission for?

Right now, we’re all anxious, concerned, stressed, and overwhelmed. Oh, and really uncertain. In other words, highly distracted by what’s going on: the novel coronavirus pandemic. And – if you’re anything like me and most of my clients – you’re also frustrated because of feeling un-focused, un-productive, and possibly just plain exhausted. Give yourself permission to feel all those things …

gljudson Self-talk

Future You knows …

The pandemic is a huge, scary unknown. What’s going to happen? Will you lose your job? (Have you already?) Will you get sick? Will someone you love get sick? The constant stream of news and social media anxiety is overwhelming. And it’s easy to get sucked into the worry / fear cycle, especially since there are some very good reasons …

gljudson Self-talk, Strategic thinking

The mid-January droop…

I saw a post on Facebook over the weekend claiming that this week in mid-January is the worst week for depression out of the year – specifically, the third Monday of the month. I don’t know how true this is – Wikipedia calls it “pseudoscience,” and it probably is. But I understand why it might be true. The holidays are over. …

gljudson Self-talk

Ever considered thinking … smaller?

Everyone implores you to THINK BIG. Go big or go home. Be audacious. Don’t settle. Be all you can be (if not more). Set BHAGs (big, hairy, audacious goals). Shoot for the moon – or is it the stars? It’s exhausting. And often demoralizing. Because let’s face it, when we set those BHAGs, we’re likely to miss the mark at …

gljudson Career development, Self-talk

What HAVE you done?

No, seriously. What have you done? Usually at the end of the year, we look at what we want to do in the next year. Go ahead. Feel free. But first, consider what you’ve done THIS year. I’ll guarantee it’s more than you think. Because we’re all very quick to put completed projects and successful endeavors behind us and hurry on …

gljudson Career development, Self-talk

Go ahead. Take a break.

Yesterday, I presented a breakout session at the annual Businesswomen’s Conference, created every year by the Bentonville Arkansas Chamber of Commerce. This was its 21st year, and they do a fantastic job; it always sells out well in advance, and each year seems to get better (with the possible exception of the plain green salad they consider an adequate lunch …

gljudson Self-talk

Do you have Tall Poppy syndrome?

Tall Poppy syndrome is the desire to mow down those you feel are above you or head of you – those who seem more successful, wealthier, drive better cars, have nicer offices, and so forth. It comes with a desire to not be a Tall Poppy yourself. But there’s a big difference between arrogance and well-earned pride. And if you find …

gljudson Career development, Self-talk

Don’t do it!

Do you make New Year’s resolutions? May I suggest that you don’t? The last New Year’s resolution I ever made – and the only one I ever actually kept – was to … (wait for it) … never make another New Year’s resolution. The start of a year seems like a great time to reset and step forward into a …

gljudson Self-talk