Tall poppies and sticky-out nails

Once upon a time, when I was still working in corporate, my boss – a VP at the company where I worked – called me in to his office to tell me to stop speaking up in meetings. These were the same meetings where another VP – a woman – was constantly interrupted and talked over. The difference between her …

Let’s just stop glorifying burnout

Everywhere I look, I see articles, podcast episodes, social media posts, all asking what can we do about burnout? I have one very succinct and heartfelt answer: ~ stop glorifying burnout ~ It’s part of hustle culture. It’s part of the “Oh, I’m so busy!” badge of “honor.” (In quotes because yegads, people, let’s just stop – it’s not an “honor” to …

When you just *can’t*

Leaders are supposed to keep on keeping on. They’re supposed to make decisions, offer support, give feedback, notice who’s struggling, catch all the balls, help their teams through burnout, keep projects on track, stagger out of the office and deal with the kids, the dog, the cat, the partner, the family, the friends, the neighbors … Shall I stop now? Because …

Twisties, anyone?

If you’ve been paying any attention at all to this year’s Olympics, you know that Simone Biles, considered the greatest gymnast of all time, withdrew from the all-around and, as of the time I’m writing this, is uncertain for the individual competitions. The public reaction has been predictably … intense. From those condemning her (I’m not going there) to those …

Verb your values!

The problem with most companies’ values (and, dare I say, most people’s values) is follow-through. What we do about them once we’ve declared them. I wrote here about whether values are really values if we don’t always manage to live up to them. Spoiler alert: yes, because we’re human. But – and this is an important point – if we don’t …

Values, preferences, needs, and wants (oh my!)

“Values are important” – there’s a real Captain Obvious statement, hm? I’ve written about values before, and I call out that importance – quite emphatically – in the Empowered Leadership program. But how do we go about discovering and defining our values – instead of just taking it for granted that of course we have them? My thoughts on this …

Better? Worse? Different!

We’re a bit over a year into the pandemic. Some people are struggling. Some people are coasting. Some people have found silver linings – and some of them feel guilty about that. Some people are nostalgic for how things were. Interestingly enough, though, they’re a significant minority. Most people do not want to go back to How Things Were. The people …

Stress, anxiety, exhaustion – it’s Pandemic Brain!

“What’s wrong with me?” More than one client has said that to me in the past few weeks. “What’s wrong with me?” One client is exhausted. Another is anxious – “for no reason.” And then there’s the lack of normal productivity, the difficulty thinking clearly, the unexpected challenge of making decisions. “I’m really lucky. I have a good job. I’m healthy. …

Got potential?

So much possibility wrapped up in that one word: potential. Maybe you – or one of your kids – got that dreaded note on a report card: “Not living up to their potential.” Ugh. But here’s the thing about potential: it’s meaningless. Without action, without the willingness to take risks and make mistakes, without the drive to learn and fumble and …

Motivation is a crock

There. I said it. Motivation is a crock. Willpower is too. Motivation is fickle. Sometimes it’s there, sometimes not. Waiting for it to wander back into your life means you’re not doing the things you really do want to do. If only you “felt like it.” Willpower. Gritting your teeth and forcing yourself forward. Exhausting. And when you’re exhausted, just …