Change your beliefs, change your life

If you believe… If you believe that negotiation is hard and you have to be mean and nasty to get what you want … I want you to believe you can negotiate successfully from a place of empathy and understanding. If you believe that conflict is scary and to be avoided … I want you to believe you can hold …

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Are they values if we don’t follow them?

A few posts ago, I wrote, “Is a value really a value if one doesn’t always practice it?” In hindsight, I can’t believe I asked such a naive question. We’re humans. And therefore, we’re fallible. So of course we’re going to fail to live up to our values some of the time. This includes organizations as well as individuals. While I …

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The value of values

Did that title turn you off? I understand. Values are an eye-roller for many people. Organizational leaders love to create their core-values lists, but … how real are they? And when it’s just a bunch of nice-to-have / wish-we-followed words framed on the wall, who can blame people for rolling their eyes? Especially when we witness the mis-alignment between those nice …

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“Work is Love made visible”

I encountered this Kahlil Gibran quote  years ago on my first visit to the Esalen retreat center. I’d ventured into the kitchen to ask a question, and when I turned to leave, I saw the quote posted above the door out to the dining room. Work is Love made visible The impact was remarkable. I could easily imagine – and even feel – …

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Failure … or defeat?

Failure is not the same as defeat. Unless you allow it to be. It’s probably cliché to quote Thomas Edison, but it’s also relevant:  “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” If he’d allowed his first – or 100th, or 9,999th – failure to equal defeat, someone else would have invented the lightbulb. We are …

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Visible doesn’t mean exposed

I was talking with a client last week who told me that her biggest challenge in being in business has to do with visibility. “I’m a private person,” she said, and went on to describe her fears of having to put too much of herself on public view in order to succeed in her business. As an introvert and a private …

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Is it hard, or is it scary?

It seems like every article and marketing email coming into my in-box these days is playing some variant of the “it’s so hard” song. Whether they’re harping on how hard it is to do some specific thing, or how hard it is to focus on doing anything at all, it seems like “it’s hard” is the current Hot Marketing Trend. I don’t buy …

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Don’t accept your labels – especially if you like them

Labels are tricky things. You can learn a lot about yourself from labels. Personality styles, for instance – everything from Myers-Briggs to the Enneagram and a host of others – can provide powerful insights into why you do things the way you do, what you might enjoy and excel at, and even into what’s most important for you. Personal attributes are …

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Your Mom Was Right (and why that’s relevant)

There are things almost every mother ends up saying to her children.  We recognize these pieces of advice and instruction as amusing mom-cliches simply because they’re used so routinely.  And like most cliches, these bits of motherhood wisdom hold a certain kernel of truth. I noticed recently that many of them also apply to running a business. So whether or …

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Got time for that?

“Not enough time” is a reason for not doing an enormous number of things. I’m convinced it’s 99% untrue. Seems to me … we do what we really want to do. So don’t tell me what you don’t have time for. Tell me what you do have time for. ShareShareTweet

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